This is human nature - to want what we can't have. :) The best situation is to experience both - small town/big city and have opportunities in both. I grew up in a small town, and hate city life, big crowds, fast pace lifestyle. I'm single, with no children. We must find where we are most comfortable in life, and stay there. Sometimes you have to explore and wander to determine where your feet should ultimately be grounded. I've been to Ukraine, but not Donetsk. Good luck to you! :)