In the end only kindness matters...

I too am a cynic when it comes to men's intentions in romantic relationships. :)) But now I try to be open and more vulnerable. It's the only way if you want to find a partner. I've never tried speed dating. I met all my exes through friends, or random encounters at record stores or concerts. One through work, but this is not the best idea to date co-workers in my view. And the chances of me meeting someone that I'm mentally attracted to in my law firm environment is almost zero. I'm not attracted to the business man, alpha dog type. I like sensitive, creative creatures. :))