I love this post! Woman, you know how much I LOVE men! I think the point here, like in most things, is that extremes are usually not the best thing. Nobody should want someone to control or regulate them. But a little jealousy, and some sexy control in the bedroom can be a very good thing. As far as oral sex goes, I am all about giving, but I would never want someone to refuse me, if I desired it. I agree with you as far as paying for things. There are things to be said for traditional values, men being a provider, protector, etc..., but in this day and age I would feel awkward having anyone always pay my way. Relationships should always be give and take on all levels. I wouldn't say I believe in one night stands, but I do believe you can have a friendship with someone that you could occasionally sleep with. I have found that American men aren't as "adventurous" in bed. They are happy with so called vanilla sex, where some of the Latin, and European men I have "known" are more, um, passionate. As I mentioned before, a happy medium between jealous selfish control freak and whimpering boring sensitive doormat is where I like my man. Someone to have both sides to his personality. Someone who excites me, my mind, my body and my heart. I like to keep an open mind, but from all these posts, I dont know if a Russian man will be in your romantic future, and definitely not mine. (Haha, which Im sure my husband will appreciate) Loves! Xoxo