You know I was really surprised reading your post and described qualities of Russian men. Maybe I know other men:) At least all men who I dated with liked oral sex and were first to do it during first sex.
I had only one guy who was really jelaous and wanted to control me. After him I firmly decided to have next one with opposite mind. That happened twice then, one of them is my husband now:)
About payment: this is really our tradition and I would expect a man to pay for dinner, but of course I am able to pay for myself:)
So, people are different and main question is if a woman knows what kind of person she really wants to have with her.