I am a Russian, I've been living in the US for 2 years. Well, it is very hard for me to compare Russian and American men. I haven't dated much (my relationships have never lasted for less than 5 years )), and I have never dated an American, so my judgement is based more on what I see around.
The "portrait of a Russian man" described here is just our cultural stereotype of a "True Man". Women are looking for him, boys try to resemble him, but he does not exist in reality. My first man "chose me", followed my every step, "defended my honor", but at the same time we often went Dutch in a restaurant. He made me to give up my college so that I could work and contribute money. He gave me gifts, but I made gifts of about the same value. I had several friends (girls) with similar stories: they had to give up their aspirations -- totally or partially -- because their spouses wanted them to earn money. On the other hand, I had friends who would never allow me to pay for myself, even when they were very short on budget. My Russian husband encouraged me to continue my education, and supported me during this time. And he didn't feel uncomfortable when I became a bread-earner.
Same thing about the USA. Yes, it is supposed that women are independent and have equal rights, etc., yet I heard quite a few men saying that a woman is inferior to a man, and from time to time I meet victims of domestic abuse. Most disturbing, I find Americans so judging... Well, I live in Texas, there are so many Christians here.
Lastly, about casual sex. It has never happened to me, and no one of my female friends confessed in such things. Again, I am pretty sure that it happens there as often as in the USA, but the attitude is different (especially when it comes to women). Same thing about adultery: I suspect the rate is about the same in both countries, but American men conceal it better because of a public attitude.
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I am a Russian, I've been living in the US for 2 years. Well, it is very hard for me to compare Russian and American men. I haven't dated much (my relationships have never lasted for less than 5 years )), and I have never dated an American, so my judgement is based more on what I see around.
The "portrait of a Russian man" described here is just our cultural stereotype of a "True Man". Women are looking for him, boys try to resemble him, but he does not exist in reality. My first man "chose me", followed my every step, "defended my honor", but at the same time we often went Dutch in a restaurant. He made me to give up my college so that I could work and contribute money. He gave me gifts, but I made gifts of about the same value. I had several friends (girls) with similar stories: they had to give up their aspirations -- totally or partially -- because their spouses wanted them to earn money. On the other hand, I had friends who would never allow me to pay for myself, even when they were very short on budget. My Russian husband encouraged me to continue my education, and supported me during this time. And he didn't feel uncomfortable when I became a bread-earner.
Same thing about the USA. Yes, it is supposed that women are independent and have equal rights, etc., yet I heard quite a few men saying that a woman is inferior to a man, and from time to time I meet victims of domestic abuse. Most disturbing, I find Americans so judging... Well, I live in Texas, there are so many Christians here.
Lastly, about casual sex. It has never happened to me, and no one of my female friends confessed in such things. Again, I am pretty sure that it happens there as often as in the USA, but the attitude is different (especially when it comes to women). Same thing about adultery: I suspect the rate is about the same in both countries, but American men conceal it better because of a public attitude.