Loved your article Shannon. I liked Diana's post as well, her writing is extremely stylish and funny, too. I am Russian, dated plenty of Russian guys in my youth, married a westerner and immigrated. I would NEVER in my life marry or date a Russian guy, who was brought up in Russia. Westernized Russian guys are OK, IF they don't have the cheating mentality. Cheating is absolutely the deal breaker for me, and it's rampant there. In fact, the man who hasn't cheated on his wife is laughed upon as if he were some kind of loser. I hate manipulation and lies, and Russians, with all their plight for soulfulness and depth, still believe that lying to your GF or wife is not only OK but it's being kind. Go figure. After 16 years of life out of Russia, I am genuinely repulsed by the Russian culture of gender relations. The women wanting a man to provide, the men wanting women to obey, serve, and worship him. Do you know that Russian women purposefully try to seem less intelligent and capable, so as not to make their men feel inferior? It's true. Girls have to pretend to be silly and helpless to get a man, so he could feel strong and powerful. It's not some 20 years ago but now, in 2015. A Russian jokes site states, "An independent and strong woman wakes up at night to turn the pillow the other side up, so it's not wet from tears". I have not met Russian men who like intelligent and independent women, sorry. They should exist but I have never met one in all my life. The Russian guys who I meet here have "wandering eyes", don't know about penises, the eyes are enough to make me feel uncomfortable. Again, I stay away from any potential cheating, and the Russian guys for some reason give me that weird vibe of sexual interest, since I am married, I avoid them. Sex was and is better with my western husband. Russian guys were too self-centered and had poor skills, wouldn't attempt to learn a better technique, telling them anything about their bedroom performance was the death sentence to a relationship. Although there is plenty of casual sex in Russia and something around 20 million (!) abortions A YEAR for a country of 140 million people. Screw this, but how any Russian man could even purport love and care when girls abort unborn kids like once a year, before and after (!) they get married?? That country is damned, that's how I feel, with all this horrible violence against women and children. I don't believe there is a girl in Russia who hasn't been date raped or at least molested, unless she married at 18 and immediately became fat. Marriage is no obstacle for a Russian man if he decided he wants to have you - yours or his. You western girls have no idea how it feels when any male thinks he can grab you if he so pleases - and it's nothing! In the eyes of the law and people around. I could go on and on, but it's already too long. Good luck with your writings.
P.S. I totally agree with the 10 points by Anonymous on page 2.
Great debate! :)
I liked Diana's post as well, her writing is extremely stylish and funny, too.
I am Russian, dated plenty of Russian guys in my youth, married a westerner and immigrated.
I would NEVER in my life marry or date a Russian guy, who was brought up in Russia. Westernized Russian guys are OK, IF they don't have the cheating mentality. Cheating is absolutely the deal breaker for me, and it's rampant there. In fact, the man who hasn't cheated on his wife is laughed upon as if he were some kind of loser.
I hate manipulation and lies, and Russians, with all their plight for soulfulness and depth, still believe that lying to your GF or wife is not only OK but it's being kind. Go figure. After 16 years of life out of Russia, I am genuinely repulsed by the Russian culture of gender relations. The women wanting a man to provide, the men wanting women to obey, serve, and worship him.
Do you know that Russian women purposefully try to seem less intelligent and capable, so as not to make their men feel inferior? It's true. Girls have to pretend to be silly and helpless to get a man, so he could feel strong and powerful. It's not some 20 years ago but now, in 2015.
A Russian jokes site states, "An independent and strong woman wakes up at night to turn the pillow the other side up, so it's not wet from tears".
I have not met Russian men who like intelligent and independent women, sorry. They should exist but I have never met one in all my life. The Russian guys who I meet here have "wandering eyes", don't know about penises, the eyes are enough to make me feel uncomfortable. Again, I stay away from any potential cheating, and the Russian guys for some reason give me that weird vibe of sexual interest, since I am married, I avoid them.
Sex was and is better with my western husband. Russian guys were too self-centered and had poor skills, wouldn't attempt to learn a better technique, telling them anything about their bedroom performance was the death sentence to a relationship. Although there is plenty of casual sex in Russia and something around 20 million (!) abortions A YEAR for a country of 140 million people.
Screw this, but how any Russian man could even purport love and care when girls abort unborn kids like once a year, before and after (!) they get married?? That country is damned, that's how I feel, with all this horrible violence against women and children. I don't believe there is a girl in Russia who hasn't been date raped or at least molested, unless she married at 18 and immediately became fat. Marriage is no obstacle for a Russian man if he decided he wants to have you - yours or his. You western girls have no idea how it feels when any male thinks he can grab you if he so pleases - and it's nothing! In the eyes of the law and people around. I could go on and on, but it's already too long. Good luck with your writings.
P.S. I totally agree with the 10 points by Anonymous on page 2.