Weird Russian Behavior: American Viewpoint
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I woke up this morning on the wrong side of bed, in an incredibly bad mood. Everyone in my family is ill with the flu and my sister and her husband both recently hospitalized for unexpected sickness. Then I got to work and opened my favorite mindless website to see an article about my beloved Russians. Immediate smiles and laughter! The article is entitled "16 Things Russians Do That Americans Might Find Weird." You can view the original article here and copyright credit for most of the content below belongs to BuzzFeed. We've already discussed many of these behaviors in various posts, and some of them I've personally witnessed but not all. Let's take a look at some Russian behaviors that are odd to Americans.
1. Dressing up to go to the store.
"Russians, especially Russians living in cities, love dressing up. For example, a nice dress and some heels are perfect attire for a casual walk."
There's no doubt Russian women are more fancy than their American counterparts. Yes, plenty of American women dress up to go out to clubs, dates or nice dinners but in daily life we are more casual in appearance. Also true that you can go into many American supermarkets or retail stores and see at least one or two people walking around in pajama pants. This behavior I really hate! I love pajamas more than anyone, but who is so lazy that they can't take one minute to put on a pair of pants? Shameful.
2. Sitting down for a minute before heading on a trip.
"Once the suitcase is packed, most Russians typically pause and sit quietly for a minute before leaving."
This one I've never experienced, in fact the opposite. The Russian I normally travel with doesn't waste one second during travels.
3. Making really long and complicated toasts.
"Only the laziest of the laziest Russians will make a toast of "To Health" or something short like that. Seriously. Expect to hear anecdotes..."
All of my Russian friends tell me about these legendary long toasts, but I've never experienced one in person. In America, long toasts or speeches are typically reserved for weddings or other formal events. At a bar with friends, we say only one word - "Cheers" - before downing alcohol.
4. Telling anecdotes as often as possible.
"Russians might be in the middle of telling a story and then say, with relish, 'And, you know, this reminds me of an anecdote...' and then proceed to tell it, even if it's completely irrelevant.
See a common theme? Apparently Russians like to tell stories. :))
5. Congratulating one another on getting out of a shower or sauna.
"Russians say "S lyogkim parom!" (Basically "congratulations on a light steam")."
Unfortunately, I've never visited a Russian banya or sauna, but it's on my "to do" list. I like to be whipped with twigs. ;)) Is this true? You really congratulate each other in such a manner?
6. Answering "How are you?" honestly and fully.
"How are you?" in Russian demands an actual answer, not just "Great, thanks!"
7. Not smiling at strangers.
"In Russia, smiling at people you randomly make eye contact with is not a thing. Smiles are supposed to be genuine, to be shared only with friends."
We've discussed many times the cultural differences between the way Americans and Russians interact with strangers. This is the biggest culture shock for an American when they step foot in Russia. Rare to see people smiling at each other or exchanging friendly "hellos" on the streets. When you come from a country like America where it is common place, you get the immediate perception that Russians are cold and unfriendly toward one another when visiting.
8. Celebrating New Year's more enthusiastically than Christmas.
"The tree is for New Year's. Presents are for New Year's. Forget Christmas. New Year's is THE winter holiday in Russia."
This is completely different from America, where family gatherings and gift exchanges take place on 24 and 25 December (Christmas Eve and Christmas day). It's the main holiday of the year and New Year's Eve is party day, not family or gift day. One reader recently told me that the 7 January Christmas holiday in Russia is "just another day off for most people."
9. Constantly rewatching old Soviet cartoons.
"Nu, Pogodi!," "Bremenskiye Muzykanty" and "Snezhnaya Koroleva" are among Russia's favorites."
Now, this I've personally experienced! :)) My Russian friend has shown me several Soviet cartoons, and readers sometimes send them to me. I like them!
10. Calling all females "girl."
"If you want to call your female waitress, you yell 'girl!.' If you want to address a 50 year old woman, you can call her 'girl.' If you want to address an actual girl, you call her 'girl.' Any woman sort of a babushka is 'girl.'
Hmmm...don't know if this is true? Honestly I rarely understand anything native Russian men say to me when I'm on the streets or public places in Russia, and I speak English with all my Russian guy friends. In Poland, a bunch of drunkards attempted to speak to me in Russian when left alone for a second. Maybe they were calling me 'girl,' or something much more creative. :) I have no idea what they said to me.
11. Sitting down at the table for a meal and staying there for hours.
"When groups of Russians get together for dinner, they will sit down, have dinner and talk. Then they will talk some more."
I've never been to a formal Russian feast, only casual parties involving a lot of drinking. However, my friends tell me about these long, formal gatherings. Americans also sit and have dinner together on occasion, but it's rare that such events last hours. We're more mobile and casual. For example, you can read about my large family's Thanksgiving gathering and feast. We move around and talk to numerous people, not staying in the same seat for extended periods.
12. Always keeping your bags.
"Seriously, Russians never, ever throw away any bags just cause you never know when you might need one."
Okay, this one is strange for me. I've stayed in a Russian apartment twice and never noticed a lot of extra bags.
13. Preparing way more food than is necessary for guests.
"And most will have tons of mayo."
No difference here between Russians and Americans. My family always prepares enough food to feed an army. We like to eat, but I hate mayonnaise!!
14. Living with their parents.
"It is often that an entire Russian family - parents, children and grandparents - will live together in one apartment."
I can't say I've witnessed this either. Maybe it was true in other eras, but not modern day Russia? What about women? Is it typical for young, single Russian women to live alone, or they stay at home with their parents until married?
15. Meeting complete strangers and then becoming friends with them immediately.
"And then inviting them over for some tea after only 10 minutes of conversation."
16. Never showing up to someone's house without a gift in hand.
Yes! My Russian friend always brings wonderful gifts when he visits. No real difference in cultures here. Americans also bring gifts like wine or flowers when visiting friends or relatives for dinner or extended periods of stay.
So which Russian behaviors are exaggerated here and which are true? I wonder which American behaviors Russians and other foreigners find weird? Discuss.
See also my post entitled "Bizarre Russian Foods" for a good laugh!
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Date: 2014-01-08 07:47 pm (UTC)We were expecting an American exchange student, and there came a blonde girl who was a Russian Jew from America!
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Date: 2014-01-08 07:57 pm (UTC)what's the problem??
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Date: 2014-01-08 07:59 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2014-01-08 08:02 pm (UTC)I do not understand why he asks this question?
Jew is bad??
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Date: 2014-01-08 08:19 pm (UTC)A blonde Russian Jew for an American girl was simply not expected.
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Date: 2014-01-09 07:33 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2014-01-09 04:19 pm (UTC)That girl by nationality was American.
That girl by ethnicity was Jewish.
That girl by origin was Russian.
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Date: 2014-01-09 04:33 pm (UTC)you are mistaken
Russian - is a nationality!
for example, I am a citizen of Russia, but I'm not Russian.
I'm Jewish (Tatar, Bashkir, Mari, Yakut, Tuva and other -in Russia of many nationalities)
You are absolutely wrong.
Date: 2014-01-09 05:05 pm (UTC)You are not a citizen of anything. Citizens have rights. All you all in Russia do not have civil rights. It is a lie.
A great Russian writer E. Zamyatin wrote: We have only one right. The right to be punished. And we will stand firm to defend this right until we die. This is the kind of "citizens" you are. Sorry!
You are mere "subjects".
"I'm Jewish (Tatar, Bashkir, Mari, Yakut, Tuva and other -in Russia of many nationalities)" - these are not nationalities. These are ethnic groups.
The same here, in America - there are multiple ethnic groups - English, Irish, German, Italian, Russian, French, Jewish, Chinese, you tell me what else.
But the nationality of all of them is the same - American. And yes, they all are citizens here.
When we look at Russia, we see you all as one nation, the Russians. We do not care whether some of you is of Jewish, Tatar, Bashkir, Mari, Yakut, Tuva and other ethnicity.
You all are Russian for us.
Your problem is you do not perceive it this way. You do not feel yourselves as a nation. Because the Russian is still an "unformed" nation, one may say it in the Russian language: недо-нация. I am sorry one more time but it is how the things stand.
Re: You are absolutely wrong.
Date: 2014-01-09 05:35 pm (UTC)unfortunately in English there is no difference between the words
RUSSIAN and Russian (Russian resident)
русский
россиянин
These words in Russian have different meanings
I wish you to take care of themselves, their country and leave alone Russian;).
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Date: 2014-01-08 08:14 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2014-01-08 08:06 pm (UTC)"would have been a good man" - we say so