i am an outsider, too. my only advantage over you is my relative fluency in russian. in the 90s i moderated a super-geeky site ( amero-euro, english-language) - i was much nicer then, and just could not understand the irritability of some characters. i banned left and right for any conduct i thought was disrespectful to the opponent, openly or covertly. before a ban, an offender would get two warnings. after a ban, they could still respond to the moderators, directly. i remember one particular "primal scream" - "But Molly, he is such an IDIOT! I cannot not react to this IDIOT! His presence here negates the whole purpose and mission of this community!" ... i don't remeber what i answered, or whether i answered at all. he was probably right - very silly people damage the platform they are expressing themselves on...
Re: oh, then you are fair. my bad....
in the 90s i moderated a super-geeky site ( amero-euro, english-language) - i was much nicer then, and just could not understand the irritability of some characters. i banned left and right for any conduct i thought was disrespectful to the opponent, openly or covertly. before a ban, an offender would get two warnings. after a ban, they could still respond to the moderators, directly. i remember one particular "primal scream" - "But Molly, he is such an IDIOT! I cannot not react to this IDIOT! His presence here negates the whole purpose and mission of this community!" ... i don't remeber what i answered, or whether i answered at all. he was probably right - very silly people damage the platform they are expressing themselves on...