The Joys of RuNet!

[peacetraveler22]

How can I ever leave the Russian blogosphere when I receive amusing and thought provoking comments like this! :)

"Странная женщина. 42 почти года, мужа нет. Работы, видимо, толковой тоже, иначе не каталась бы по самым дешевым билетам в Москву. Детей нет. Чего в жизни добилась-то? Русский кое-как выучила, чтоб русского мужчину найти? Так они давно разобраны, у них уже дети школу заканчивают. При этом гонор ого-го какой. Высокомерно поучает, хотя в сущности пишет банальности и глупости. Вам бы к психотерапевту, тётенька."

Btw, I never see the single male bloggers on LJ being harassed or criticized for not being married. Why is that? Is it only shameful for an older woman to be single in Russian culture, but okay for men to remain unmarried and childless? My life is worthless! I don't have a Russian man...how can I survive? :)

Pleasant weekend to all!

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Comments

[elena-88888.livejournal.com]

That's great! :)))
There are so many people who think that only their way of thinking is the most right of right ways :))

[peacetraveler22.livejournal.com]

Esp. when they are writing on the Internet anonymously and don't have to show their face or verbally defend their position. :)

[meriadoc-1171.livejournal.com]

So sweet twinge of envy :) You are 42 (??) but you are perfect as 22, you are from America and you are travelling where you want? hate-envy-hate-envy-hate-envy :)))

[peacetraveler22.livejournal.com]

I still feel 22, but sometimes the aches and pains in my body remind me of my true age! :)

[desdichadov.livejournal.com]

Shannon, sorry for people like this!
Never mind. I feel shame. But u must to know, they isn't whole Russia.

[peacetraveler22.livejournal.com]

Do not feel shame! :) We can't control the actions of others! In real life, or in the virtual world.

[a-nimaida.livejournal.com]

зачем ты собираешь мусор ?...не первый раз уже...

[peacetraveler22.livejournal.com]

I do not only collect or show trash. :) I also wrote a post recently when someone said nice things about me. This comment is funny, so I showed it to readers. That's all.

[rider3099.livejournal.com]

It is the Russian mentality. Never mind! Have a great weekend :)

[peacetraveler22.livejournal.com]

You too! We are supposed to have snow in Virginia. Hooray! :)

[dkfl.livejournal.com]

Внесу разнобразие в хор подпевал. Я не согласен. В условиях рашки-говняшки рискованно, но в условиях американской медицины может проскочит.

Куда катиться этот мир..

[peacetraveler22.livejournal.com]

Sorry, I don't understand your comment. Something about medicine? Not relevant to the topic of the post.

[leosoft.livejournal.com]

Shannon, try not to pay attention. This comment is bullshit. Every work has flaws and Russian blogosphere is not exception.

[peacetraveler22.livejournal.com]

The blog is not my work, only a hobby! :)

[desdichadov.livejournal.com]

Shannon, I ask you a question?

[peacetraveler22.livejournal.com]

Okay, what's the question?

[qi-tronic.livejournal.com]

Well, you already know my opinion that people should marry :)
And not just marry but become a part of a dynasty, a chain from past to future.

[peacetraveler22.livejournal.com]

Marriage is good, but first you must meet the right person! I don't make an effort to do this.

[andruhon.livejournal.com]

Children are indeed a important part of Russian culture (at least in my contacts circle). I mean genetically own children being breed by their own parents. Life is very short and every own child gives you a chance that real part of you will exist ages after you: your genetics, your personal memories, your understanding of good and bad - all these things passed from you to your child.

[peacetraveler22.livejournal.com]

I have the same things with my nephew, who I adore. Of course, children are also an important part of U.S. culture and family.

[krasnogorr.livejournal.com]

Кстати, когда вы приедете в Россию, приглашаю вас пить каждый день дешёвую водку и каждый день голосовать за Путина =) Почувствуйте себя русской =)

[peacetraveler22.livejournal.com]

I hope I can have a big reader gathering somewhere in Moscow, if my schedule doesn't get too busy during my visit. You are welcome to join us! :)

[harlampiev.livejournal.com]

Youre 42 years old?!!!! Shit, I thoud 28-32, on photo. Not compliment, just minds.
Ticket throught the ocean even lowcost is very expensive pleasure.
Im 34, dont wanna children at all.
Bout russian men- really, never? Never- never? Shame on you, couldnt even seen to me sexless lonely tourism.=))))
But, Ive never wouldnt have sex with Tajik-Uzbek woman. Yove got the same reasons?=)

[peacetraveler22.livejournal.com]

I'm only 41! :) Now I have some gray hairs at the top of my head. It makes me look older. :) What's wrong with Tajik and Uzbek women?

[perycalypsis.livejournal.com]

the rewards of fame:
Distorted judgments, noise and blame!

[peacetraveler22.livejournal.com]

I don't know how the top bloggers handle all the crazy insults and comments they receive. I guess they just ban people more frequently than I do. So far, I've banned only two people from my blog, and both instances occurred in the last week.

[seadevil001.livejournal.com]

Id guess to be single and without kids are not kosher in US as well. Both for man and womans. Look, all high achievers has bunch of kids, I say there are reason for this.
PS Two days ago surgeon was killed at Brigham and Woman's - depth chief, band player, has everything, 44 y.o. with 3 kids and wife pregnant with next one. Wife are plastic surgeon herself.

[peacetraveler22.livejournal.com]

In the U.S., this isn't an issue. A lot of my female friends are single, with no kids, and no pressure from family or feeling their life is worthless as a result. But, yes, there are still plenty of traditional and large families in the U.S. Our population is not in danger of extinction. :)

[exnadya.livejournal.com]

yes, here is a shame to be unmarried after 25 and enjoy life as you like.
though, comments like this usualy giving loosers, which are unhappy becouse they were afraid to be out of standarts, to have own mind, life, and enjoy it

[peacetraveler22.livejournal.com]

Yes, such people are merely slaves to societal norms. A sad existence, in my opinion. Marriage is a beautiful thing, but it should always come out of pure love, not desperation or fear of loneliness.

[justadreamer.livejournal.com]

Дон'т лив аз, ви глэд, что ю хав юмор!

А холивар и троллинг в ЖЖ, это просто русская народная забава )

[peacetraveler22.livejournal.com]

Sure, humor is good! It's necessary to laugh at ourselves sometimes also. :)

[juan-gandhi.livejournal.com]

Oh, what a pity. No Russian husband. Such a life failure.
The deficit though is caused not by their having children graduating schools, but by their turning into alcoholics, en masse, by this age. And their life is mostly over anyway. I heard my classmate, yes, around 43, describing himself on the phone as an old man.

The only viable suggestion would be to pick up someone much younger; many would be happy to get a greencard. I hope you won't do it though, why would you? Do you really need a boss or something? A drunk one...

[peacetraveler22.livejournal.com]

A boss? No thanks. :) I've always dated much younger men my whole life. Not by choice, these are just the men who typically approach me, and share my love for adventure.

[robert_forsberg (from livejournal.com)]

I have to admit that such stupid ideas about women`s life purposes aren't a rare thing in Russian soсiety. Please don`t care about it. There are many reasonable and pleasant people here, in Russia, I'm sure you will find plenty of them in LJ.

[peacetraveler22.livejournal.com]

Yes, most of my readers are reasonable and pleasant. I've found many such people here. :)

[sergechel.livejournal.com]

Same thing for males
http://pikabu.ru/story/kogda_zhenishsya_1659097

Being married is one of the strongest stereotypes of "right" way of life in Russia.

[peacetraveler22.livejournal.com]

I guess it's still considered the "right" life here in the U.S. also, but fewer people are choosing the traditional path of marriage and children at a young age. People are more focused on first developing themselves, their careers, life experiences, etc. before settling down. And I think this is a good thing. The worst people in life are those full of regrets, where their minds are constantly poisoned with thoughts of "I wish I would have...."

[maadmike.livejournal.com]

There are many unmarried women in Russia, this was the case in all European countries, so I can't consider this attack as something worthwhile discussion but if you like it...

[peacetraveler22.livejournal.com]

There are unmarried women everywhere, but there are societal differences in the way society views them (as evidenced by this comment), which are dependent on the country.

[old-perduccio.livejournal.com]

Shannon, I really applaud you for being able to take such comments with a pitch of humor. This comment, being a vivid example of narrowmindedness or an attempt of trolling, nevertheless points at a serious problem many Russian women face. The problem isn't so astute in the big cities, where an independent woman can get by without being constantly trolled by the society. In the smaller communities, on the other hand, the woman is defenceless, and will be coerced by the society into the form of behavior the society expects of her. No surprise Russia is the world leader in the percent of divorces per couple.

[peacetraveler22.livejournal.com]

Humor is the only way for me to survive in this LJ jungle. :) If I took everything personally, I would have left long ago.

[inoi-razum.livejournal.com]

Людям свойственно судить о других по себе.

This is for you to relax )

[peacetraveler22.livejournal.com]

Folk music is good! :) I don't understand the very end of the video, with the girl in the water?

[morwen-russe.livejournal.com]

Есть такая русская мужская глупость - думать, что женщина везде ищет только мужчину себе. "В отпуск поехала - любовника искать, в спортзал ходит - мужиков кадрить" и так далее.

[peacetraveler22.livejournal.com]

I guess Russian men have very healthy egos. :)

[kremlin-curant.livejournal.com]

Oh, man. You at last understood the enigmatic Russian soul. Except you still didn't understand some Russian enigmatic souls try to use your benign attitude toward the Putin's regime.

[peacetraveler22.livejournal.com]

Russian soul - no, I will never understand. :)

[moya-gospoga.livejournal.com]

Unfortunatelly it's normal for our society to judje person who don't want to live like other. I am married and going to work at sea. Once at interview they asked me if my husband will allow me to work at sea. Ugh.. Can you imagine that, as though I am a pet. Also I am childfree, my mother said to me that I have disgusting values in life (apparently it's all values except her values). It's really frustraiting. And I even don't mention what other people reaction like particularly in runet.
P.s. My husband's director removed one collegue when found out he is gay.

[peacetraveler22.livejournal.com]

In the U.S., I don't think employers are allowed to ask females if they're married or have a children during an interview. It's not a typical question asked in the interview process. I would be offended if someone asked me this, because it has no relevance to any job I would take. I'm grateful my parents have never pressured me to be married or have kids. Their only concern is that I'm happy, be it single or married. :)