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Who knew that it was shameful to eat off of paper plates, or sip from a plastic cup? My translated post about Thanksgiving appeared in TOP LJ all day yesterday, and the comments were just a feast for the soul and mind! Many people immediately commented on the fact that my family eats off of paper plates, not porcelain or china! This is a sign of bad taste and a lower class upbringing, of course! We are poorly educated American rednecks! :)) Apparently after slaving over the oven all day cooking for 40 people, many Russians would prefer to stand at the sink in the evening for hours loading the dishwasher multiple times or hand-washing precious porcelain than demean themselves and use disposable plates and cups! My family certainly owns nice porcelain, but we don't feel the need to eat off of sparkling plates at such huge gatherings. Does the food taste different if it's served on a fancy plate? I don't think so. :) Other common observations in the comments:
(1) "It's horrible that everyone in your family is sitting at different tables! Why aren't you all seated at one long table?" Let me remind you that there are over 40 people at this feast, and my family does not like formal, stuffy gatherings where everyone sits in the same place for hours at a time. We like to get up and move around, talk to different relatives, go outside for fresh air....
(2) "Did you pray before the feast, or has America forgotten God?" No, I don't pray. Not at Thanksgiving, or any other day. I am not a religious person, and don't believe prayer solves anything. However, there are plenty of holy people in the USA who pray daily and definitely at Thanksgiving. Don't worry, faith and religion is still very strong in the USA. :)
(3) "What slobs! Everyone is wearing their shoes in the house!" YES! In the USA, it is not customary to remove your shoes as soon as you enter the house, especially in a place like Virginia where we don't get much snow. Each time I visit Russia, I must remind myself to immediately remove my boots when entering my friend's apartment. For me, it's something unusual and not a personal habit. I wear my shoes inside the house all the time, as do many Americans.
(4) "Why don't the children sing, dance or read stories at the table?" The children are outside, playing in the nice weather, not sitting in the house singing, performing, or reading prose to the adults. We usually gather and sing Christmas songs during our December holiday celebration, which I will try to show you.
(5) "Why do you ask people to write comments in English! This is a Russian speaking community." I'm exhausted over the English vs. Russian language hysteria that so commonly arises when my posts appear in other forums. I can't understand the problem, when a kind reader spent hours translating my text into Russian so it could reach a mass audience, yet people still complain! :(
Based on the comments, Russia is the most highly cultured nation, using the best porcelain, dressing in ball gowns and discussing deep and weighty subjects such as politics, literature and the fine arts at all holiday gatherings. :))
I don't claim that my family represents all of America. Of course, there are highly sophisticated and elite families who eat off of beautiful porcelain, have fancy table settings and even maids that prepare and serve their meals. But this is not my family. We are ordinary, middle-class folks, and most of my relatives are blue collar workers. We don't feel the need to dress up and impress anyone. We are surrounded by each other all the time, and to me this is the most important part of Thanksgiving, or any other celebration. Not prayer, not songs, not porcelain. Unconditional love - the highest form of spirituality!
Do you think it's shameful and unacceptable to eat off of paper plates? Is it really important to use porcelain or expensive china at holiday gatherings?

Let's end with the most amusing and delusional comment to the post from my LJ enemy "lenkaolenka," please enjoy! :))
"Старая добрая Шенон со своей скрытой идеей ударить побольнее русских в то время, когда в экономике не совсем хорошо.
Мой бывший Американский муж был Мастером праздника Благодарения. Шенон права: это праздник еды. О еде начинают думать задолго до праздника, потому что это отвлекает от проблем, которыми кишит жизнь, теле и интернетный эфир. Еда - это смысл и утешение.
Как правило, все блюда этого праздника состоят из сахара, крахмала (кукуруза, картофель), муки, шоколадного порошка с небольшим количеством дешевых, чаще всего консервированных овощей (стручки гороха).
Количество еды обратно пропорционально качеству, вкусу и полезности. Поскольку мясо индющки само по себе очень сухое и невкусное, то его заедают громадным количеством "клюквенного варенья" и других сладких блюд, в которые кладется немысленное количество кукурузного сиропа. "Ветчина" - это нечто пересоленное и бесвкусное. Поэтому для нее нужно варенье. Традиция!
Еда еда и еда этого праздника - единственный повод для собрания. Сначала все о ней говорят, потом ее постоянно вталкивают и обсуждают одновременно, потом лениво переваривают. Потом разговоры о деньгах, ценах и предстоящих распродажах.
Все!
Песен не поют. Книги и фильмы (как и политику) не обсуждают. Просто переваривают еду и вспоминают, каким каждое блюдо было вкусным и необыкновенным.
Сначала это для русской души интересно. Ждешь какого-то таинства. Но его нет. Есть еда. Как будто втретилось большое количество очень примитивных особей, все счастье которых заключается в наличии большого и сытного корыта.
Мой муж никогда не готовил на праздник макароны с сыром.
Это - блюдо на случай безработицы. Сыр в этом блюде - дешевый заменитель с некоторым привкусом сыра. Это не такой сыр, который представляют себе россияне! Да и птица вроде ножек буша. От долгого чревоугодия еда постоянно подогреваемая в течение теряет вкус и пищевую ценность. Она похожа на кухни для бедных и бездомных. Но сытная. Она дает ощущение безопасности.
Вот как мы обращаемся к тортикам, если нас обидели, так бедные люди в Америке набрасываются на еду.
А потом телевизор. Да. С сытыми пустыми глазами.
И наряды обсуждать, и любоваться - флиртовать - оценивать фасончики никто не будет. Как будто ты в хлеву и тебя откормили. И у тебя небольшая передышка перед новым ударом кнута.
Да... никто не танцует и не поет. Не играют в какие то общие игры. Никто не делится сокровенным даже в кругу своих. Никто не вспоминает индейцев и историю. Все заедается сахарной бесвкусной клюквой."
You can read the other 900 comments to the post here. Welcome to all of the new readers in this blog! I'm glad you're here! :)
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Date: 2015-12-03 05:13 pm (UTC)And here is the reason why your LJ enemy hates America -" Мой бывший Американский муж"
When she insults you she insults her ex in her mind. I'm sure she often calls him but he declines her calls so she channels an anger of an unsatisfied woman in LJ.
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Date: 2015-12-03 05:20 pm (UTC)Russian like to discuss other and teach how to live)))
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Date: 2015-12-03 05:25 pm (UTC)ManyAll russians would prefer to wash dishes after slaving all day preparing food. Actually preparations often start the day before. And dishwasher machine is still extreme novelty in Russia...I remember when I was a kid, for big holidays, like BD and NY my mom would start preparing dishes and salads the day before, than, more or less cooking all day until guests arrive, and after guests leave she'd be washing plates long into the night. Guests would bring nothing, and there was no paper plates. Now there are paper plates, but this tradition is so deep in every russian, that it's not easy to break.
When I moved to US we quickly accepted guests-bring-dish tradition, and we use (nice) disposable plates for big events. It's just making sense spending more time talking to people and less time cleaning... But as you found out - russians from Russia - will not look keenly on this shameful behaviour :)
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Date: 2015-12-03 05:27 pm (UTC)Maan, how dare you, Shannon, not to slave in the kitchen first, cutting for hours delicious salads made out of little cubes of overcooked vegetables, bologna and pickles with lots of nutritious mayo and then washing loads of china dishes by hand (because dishwasher is for lazy girls who would never get married to a nice russian guy!) :)
And your male relatives don't drink lots of vodka and argue about politics for hours while women are serving them and cleaning up? What a boring party.....
The worst part is that It's so easy to turn into a person like you :) I, myself, use paper plates now(and oh, horror my mom in Russia is doing the same thing now, she learned it from me) and make all these american dishes instead of a winter salad. Shame on me.....
Good reads.
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Date: 2015-12-03 05:27 pm (UTC)П.С. Почему-то во всех странах в интернете очень любят писать всякие пакости. И это не только в России. Видимо здравомыслящие люди любят общаться в живую.
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Date: 2015-12-03 06:54 pm (UTC)В Америке даже в госпиталь заходят, не снимая шубы и сапог.
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Date: 2015-12-03 05:28 pm (UTC)First is the heat retention qualities. Food temperature and taste get affected by the plate used, but in order to exploit this, you really need to warm or cool half the dishes depending on the food that is being served.
Second is about paper plates getting soggy from the juices and the sauce. This can get annoying, but can also be mitigated by using higher quality disposable plates.
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Date: 2015-12-03 07:01 pm (UTC)The held a "Russian" store then decided to expand and opened a restaurant,
It turned out a complete failure, although the meals were good.
The waitresses brought the meals on cold plates which killed the taste.
The waitresses stank sweat (as is usual with the Russians)
I was invited on a Jewish wedding party and bar-mitzva, enjoyed the food immensely.
Yet, after half a year they had to close the shop.
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Date: 2015-12-03 05:29 pm (UTC)Though, I truly believe that the food served on a fancy plate tastes better (it does not discourage me from using paper plates at large gatherings, but I love china and porcelain).
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Date: 2015-12-03 05:33 pm (UTC)And I can heartily second the following statements from above:
"Russian like to discuss other and teach how to live"
"they have 2 treats at the price of one: they get fed and get to bite the feeding hand too. only in america!"
"its called 'sour grapes' soviet garden variety"
...Just remembered: Americans run out of the house with just their socks on! That, in my opinion, beats wearing street shoes inside. And I'm not even mentioning raw mushrooms in the salad!
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Date: 2015-12-04 01:52 pm (UTC)Yankey-doodle came to lift ...
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Date: 2015-12-03 05:45 pm (UTC)Unfortunately, lots of people have horizons with a width of their hat brim. They can`t digest the thought that different cultures have different values and different ways of doing/interpreting things.
Hey, I am a Russian expat, I know the culture, but every time I post something that brings LJ traffic my way, I get just as much crap and stupid judgment as you did.
An average american party is different from an average russian party, this is true. But it is stupid to hate difference just because it is different. At the end of the day, Russians at the parties still do the very same things - they drink (much more then americans), eat lots of yummy (and unhealthy) food, and talk.
For some people it is hard to understand how out meat jelly, salo, and beef tongue may be equally or more disgusting to some other cultures than mac`n cheese.
I enjoyed your post and I hope you keep posting more. You have a large loving family, and that what matters at the end of the day.
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Date: 2015-12-04 12:25 am (UTC)Russian expat means you go on considering yourself Russian national and keep their passport while you do not have citizenship of the country you live in. Otherwise you are either immigrant or emigrant depending where are you looking from.
"meat jelly, salo, and beef tongue" really look very disgusting for Americans. We eat pure meat that is in abundance and despise secondary edible carcass parts. You will not find here even the delicious English oxtail soup nor the famous steak & kidney pie! Maximum you can get is Braunschweiger!
Then there hardly is a most unhealthy food than mac`n cheese. ;)
Russian talking at the parties? But what is the purpose of parties? We are not "hungarians" nor drunks. We get together primarily to talk!
Please do not take me seriously, I am just pulling your leg after a salmon fried on a pan and a glass of a blanc-de-noir ;)
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Date: 2015-12-03 06:13 pm (UTC)Upon a different note: Thanks a lot for that peanut butter cheesecake recipe! It turned out very good.
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Date: 2015-12-03 06:31 pm (UTC)I think yes:) plus 20-25% :)
>>Is it really important to use porcelain or expensive china at holiday gatherings?
All dependent on the people. If for you it's not important - don't worry:)
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Date: 2015-12-03 06:33 pm (UTC)I enjoy you post and these comments ;-)))
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Date: 2015-12-03 06:33 pm (UTC)On a matter - I will use disposable plates on the go or for children gathering or party, however I feel it a bit downgraded style for a family or close friends assembly. I have full set of real dishes in my house so why to keep them unused? Also, I feel porcelain plates more stable so I will not flip it over by accident ( I can). Olenka does not like turkey, it's up to her - in the US it is like pumpkin - a holy food. Nothing wrong with it. We use young breast part, it is much more expansive, but it has less waste and easier to bake.
But what is really surprising me here - that much of attention people are paying to food and related services. That's was a surprise to me, and it still is. May be, it is just my personal thing, but I would rather eat something quick and simple and do something after it, rather than spending time cooking and eating and cleaning. And talking about the sauce. What I would agree with her, that here some additives are making natural taste of ham, turkey and other things sweetish which is killing all natural taste. It is hard to find on the shelves without that starch or corn juice added.
In fact, I am sorry that our downhill areas do not work on Thanksgiving and a day after. But we were skiing on Saturday!!!
And, again, ---> why do you read olenka's BS - is it masochism again?
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Date: 2015-12-03 06:33 pm (UTC)and not even a half ton of mayo on everything? omg
my wife made some pretty amazing beans, and I also
liked the prosciutto-wrapped asparagus
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